The author travelled many different places and observed various cultures. In all of them, he saw a commonality: gift giving was part of the love-marriage process. Gifts are a symbol of thought. A gift is something you can hold in your hand and think, “Look, he was thinking of me” or “She remembered me.”
If your spouse’s primary love language is receiving gifts, you can become a proficient gift giver. In fact, it’s probably the easiest love language!
Gifts can be made, found or bought. They don’t necessarily have to be expensive, simple things such as a home-made treat or handmade items can be great presents.
Tips if your Spouse’s Primary Love Language is Gifts
1. Try a parade of gifts. For example, have a day where you give your spouse something special in the morning before work, and then at lunch have flowers delivered to them and wrap up by presenting them with a present in the evening. If you have the energy, have a week where you give a new present every day.
2. Make your spouse a present by hand! Take a wood-carving class or a pottery class. Your main purpose is to enroll so that you can have a present for your spouse in the end.
3. Keep a “gift idea notebook.” Every time your spouse mentions that they like something, jot it down. They’ll love it when you remembered weeks later!
4. Give your spouse a book on a topic that he likes. Offer to discuss a chapter each week together.
5. Give a lasting tribute – give sadaqah in their name! Sponsor an orphan together (see Islamic Relief’s site). This is a gift that will be give to them in the akhirah also, inshaAllah!