Who Are My Mahrams?

I had locked the comments section because this is not a fatwa blog, nor is it run by anyone knowledgeable, but it’s open again. If anyone has any such questions, please direct them at your Imam or anyone else knowledgeable in your community. JazakAllah khayr for understanding.

Who are your mahrams – the men you cannot marry/have sexual relations with and do not have to observe hijaab in front of ?

My husband seems to be quite lost these days on exactly who a woman’s mahrams are, so I thought I’d do a little reading for him. Yay! One thing I actually might know more about than him! 🙂 My source was primarily my Fiqh of Love notes (taught by Shaykh Yaser Birjas), but I double-checked with Islam Q&A to make sure I didn’t have discrepancies.


To begin, mahrams can be split into 3 categories:

1) mahrams by blood

2) mahrams by marriage

3) mahrams by breastfeeding 

Most of your mahrams are summed up in this ayah, where Allah says:

“And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment except that which [necessarily] appears thereof and to wrap [a portion of] their headcovers over their chests and not expose their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands’ fathers, their sons, their husbands’ sons, their brothers, their brothers’ sons, their sisters’ sons, their women, that which their right hands possess, or those male attendants having no physical desire, or children who are not yet aware of the private aspects of women. And let them not stamp their feet to make known what they conceal of their adornment. And turn to Allah in repentance, all of you, O believers, that you might succeed.” (24:31)

Mahrams by Blood

Mahrams by blood are pretty simple to understand. They are your mahrams because they are related to you by blood 🙂

1. Your descendants (son, grandson, great grandson, etc)

2. Your ascendants (father, grandfather, great grandfather, etc)

3. Your parents’ descendants (your brother, your brothers’ sons, your sisters’ sons. This includes half-brothers and half-siblings.)

4. The first generation of your grandparents’ offspring.

That is – your mother’s brothers, your father’s brothers. These are  your maternal and paternal uncles by blood. This does not include, for example, your mother’s sister’s husband. In Urdu, we call this relationship khalu; your khalu is NOT your mahram! He is not your uncle by blood, rather he is your uncle through marriage.

Mahrams by Affinity/Marriage

This is also where things get sticky. People assume a lot of mahrams once they are married. The most obvious mistake: the brother in law. The brother in law is NOT your mahram! As a matter of fact, the Prophet sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said that the brother in law is death.

‘Uqba b. Amir reported Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: “Beware of getting, into the houses and meeting women (in seclusion).” A person from the Ansar said: “Allah’s Messenger, what about the husband’s brother?” Whereupon he said: “The husband’s brother is like death.” [Muslim 26/5400]

It’s true. That is usually the person most couples feel comfortable around. The husband thinks, “He’s my brother, I trust him.” And the wife thinks, “He’s my husband’s brother, like he’s going to look at me like that?”

Since when did intentions dictate Shari’ah? They are not your mahrams. If your husband were to pass away (Allah preserve our husbands!) it is completely halal for his brother to marry you. An example of this would be ‘Uthmaan radiyallahu ‘anhu – he married one daughter of the Prophet sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam. When she passed away, the Prophet married him to another of his daughters.

Anyway, so back to the mahrams 🙂

Your mahrams by marriage are:

1.) Ancestors of your husband. (That would be your husband’s father, his grandfather, etc.)

2.) Your descendants’ husbands (basically, flipping the coin on #1). (This would be your son-in-law, your granddaughter’s husband, etc.)

3.) The husbands of your ancestors (your mother’s husband…which would be your father, lol. Your stepfather, your grandmother, etc).

4.) The husband’s descendants.

This, of course, would include your sons and any children your husband may have had with another wife. And it also includes your step sons. A note, however: by contract, a man’s stepdaughter is still halal for him. After consummation, she becomes completely haram.  So the mahram relationship which is established to step children is after the parents consummate the marriage.

Common Misconceptions

1.) My brother in law is my mahram. We already addressed that 😀

2.) My cousins are my mahrams. I don’t even know why people don’t observe hijaab in front of their cousins. Don’t they realize Muslims marry cousins all the time? It is completely halal. I think the fact that we are family makes  us more comfortable and we forget the Law of Allah.

3.) My khalu and pupha are my mahrams. These would be uncles that married into your family. A simple rule of thumb: any uncle that married into the family is not your mahram unless you can prove it 😀

4.) Anybody I call khalu or uncle is my mahram. Really? :/ That’s interesting. Your mother’s and father’s cousins are NOT your mahrams. Heck, they’re not your MOM’s or DAD’s mahrams, so why would they be your mahrams?

5.) Anyone I call “nieces” and “nephews” are my mahrams. For example, your mother’s sister’s grandkids. WHY? Your cousins are not your mahrams, so why would their kids be? People may think when reading this: “This chicks’ crazy. Why is she even talking about them? There’s probably a gazillion years age gap.” Not in some families where they are loads of kids.

edited to add: Your blood nieces and nephews (siblings’ children) are your mahrams. Your spouse’s siblings’ children are NOT your mahrams. There is a big difference between the two.

The list could drag on….

Just because your call someone “aunty”, “uncle”, “brother”, “sister” does NOT make them your mahram! Be careful of who you remove hijab in front of, even if they are family. InshaAllah I hope this post helped make things simpler  🙂

I realize that there are also Mahrams by breastfeeding. I would have to do a lot of reading before writing about that, however, so inshaAllah another day 🙂

some links to checkout:

father’s wife’s mother

Mahram through breastfeeding

obligations to relatives through breastfeeding

mahrams through marriage, and another similar link

a general list of all mahrams  

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169 Responses to Who Are My Mahrams?

  1. Areej says:

    Mashallah, this post is really interesting and packed with information. I dint know that son-in-law too could be your mahram, jazakallah.

    • ummibraheem says:

      Of course the son in law is mahram! 🙂 Your father in law would be your mahram – you don’t have to observe hijaab in front of him. Actually, he is about the only mahram you get when you’re married. Well, your husband’s father; your husband’s father’s father, etc…

  2. UmmIsmail says:

    Assalamu Alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuhu
    I have a question my husband converted to islam a long time ago before i married him and of course hes family is not muslim. So someone told me that since hes father is not a muslim that he is not mahram for me and that i am not aloud to live with him or that i have to wear hijab in front of him. I know this is not true but this person insistes that it is haram is there any ayah in the quran or hadith that states anything about this? Please let me know as soon as possible. JazzakAllahu Khairen. Salam Alaikum wa Rahamtullah

    • ummibraheem says:

      wa ‘alaykum as salaam wa rahmatullah sister

      to be honest, i dont really know the answer myself. I asked my husband to ask a shaykh though…if I get a response, I’ll let you know.

      *update* I found the answer on Islam Q&A 🙂 Alhamdulillah

      Oh – and to the person who is telling you that you HAVE to wear hijaab in front of your father in law, I believe the burden of proof lies on them. That is, THEY have to produce proof that he is not your mahram. wAllahu ‘alam

  3. muslim sista' says:

    wow, thats a lots a lot of info sista!!

    but what about my dads bothers, my grandads sisters doughters husband, who are both cousins,

    or my mums sisters husband, who is my grandmas sisters son, so the married couple are both cousins?

    or my grandmas sisters son?

    all this stuff is very very confusing – i just want to get is right!!

    also if they come to my house, is it enough to wear salwaar kameez, or jeans and dress up to my knees?? – inshallah im going 2 wear jilbab/abaya starting tomorrow (im so xited!!) i just wanted to get it ryt!! hehe! (i already alhamdulillah wear hijab!)

    thanku 4 all ur support and may allah shower his blessings upon u!! and any1 who comments!! =]

    • ummibraheem says:

      as salaamu ‘alaykum muslim sista 🙂

      A lot of those people fall into some of the categories mentioned above:
      1) Your dad’s brothers are your uncles by blood – therefore, your mahrams.
      2) Your grandad’s sister’s daughter’s husband…most likely not your mahrams 😀 They seem like far off cousins to me. No?
      3) Your mum’s sister’s husband is not your mahram, nor your mothers. (He would be your mum’s brother in law. Also discussed in post 😀

      And i’m sooo happy for you that you’ll star wearing abaya! There’s this site for hijabis, if you want to check it out – igotitcovered.org

      As for your question about what wear when your non mahrams come…Well, from what I understand it would be the same as you going out and being around non mahrams. So whatever you wear in front of strange men in public, you should observe in front of them. wAllahu ‘Alam. Buuuut – a word of caution – my parents kind of freaked out when I first started wearing abayas around my uncles who were not my mahrams …. So do it with hikma (wisdom) inshaAllah. May Allah strengthen you sweetie 🙂

      • Ameen says:

        I am a muslim and a converted one before I had an opposite gendered friends and they are my cousins. I can’t do to leave them and avoid them or break our friendship because it is too harsh. What should I do?

  4. Nabeela says:

    I completely understand your frustration about women thinking they can remove their hijabs in front of male cousins. In fact, here in USA, many American muslims I know go “ewww” at the thought of marrying cousins. That is soo wrong. They are making haram on themselves something that Allah taala made halal for them.

    • ummibraheem says:

      Yeah, I think that’s a major problem with a lot of Muslims raised in the US. We think of our cousins as brother/sisters. That’s the culture HERE. You said it – we can’t make something haraam that Allah has made halaal.

    • Muminah says:

      It’s not making haraam that they find it distasteful. Though it’s true it’d be better to not comment on it, to express that one has no interest for it neither takes them out the fold of Islam nor constitutes that one is making haraam what is halal. There’s a type of lizard &insect that is halal. Ew. I’ll pass not interested. To each their own, we all have preferences. I don’t want to marry my cousin or eat bugs. Sorry, but I don’t think that makes me an innovator or apostate.

      • ummibraheem says:

        I did not say thinking marrying your cousins is gross makes you an apostate or an innovator. Read it over. I said that we should not make haram what Allah had made halal. To dislike something is your own preference, but to publicly say there’s something wrong with it is entirely different.

  5. muslim sista' says:

    thanx 4 clarifying it 4 me!! alhamdulillah, ive started wearing it today!!, i went out and brought 1 today, and my mum sed that she will make me some cz they r a bit xpensiv in the shops – and i know its halal becasue in my relatives and family we all marry our cousins because its easier for the parents 2 choose a person who they kow inside out, who will inshallh be good for u!!
    and ummibraheem – u sed it ryt!! y make halal haram!!

    peace n luv!!

  6. Saarah says:

    Wow, that’s a lot of information! It cleared up a bunch of confusion…but, I’m visiting Pakistan right now and meeting a lot of family I didn’t before, and I still have one question:
    My grandfather has a second wife, so his son with her (or my dad’s stepson) wouldn’t be mahram, right? My mother and I had a disagreement over this when he came to visit the other day, but I ended up wearing a hijab anyway to be on the safe side 🙂
    Thanks for the wonderful post!

    • ummibraheem says:

      alhamdulillah my intention was to clear up confusion 😀 although, I don’t know how good of a job I did, seeing as there are so many questions still! 🙂

      My question – you said that your grandfather had a son WITH his second wife. Do you mean that he is your grandfather’s son by blood? In that case, he wouldn’t be his step son, he would be his blood son. Just wanted to clarify the relationship.

  7. Hadi says:

    In response to common misconceptions # 5:
    niece = brother or sister’s daughter
    Nephew = brother or sister’s son
    They are Mahrams. It is not a misconception.

    • ummibraheem says:

      I’m not sure which country you live in, brother, so perhaps that is where we differ. In the US, however, your SPOUSE’s siblings children would also be considered your nieces and nephews. They are NOT your mahrams.

      For example, your husband’s brother’s sons. They aren’t your mahrams. wAllahu ‘Alam.

      Also, in that point, I was trying more to point out that just because you call someone ‘niece’ or ‘nephew’, it doesn’t make them your mahram. But jazakAllah khayr for bringing about another important point!

      For future reference, if you could word your corrections and advice more politely, you would have a grateful audience 🙂

  8. Khadija Qaiser says:

    MashALLAH 🙂

  9. i will say the same about In response to common misconceptions # 5:
    niece = brother or sister’s daughter
    Nephew = brother or sister’s son
    They are Mahrams. It is not a misconception.

    Yes they are mehrams Hadi.

  10. Sumaira says:

    Is Sister’s husband Mahrm????

    • ummibraheem says:

      No, your sister’s husband is not your mahram.

      • UmmD says:

        From what I read, he is temporary mehram as in forbidden to marry as long as he’s married to your sister, same for khalu. So you have to cover but you can sit in the same room kinds.But for other non mahrams eg,. cousins,, you should not even mix with them.

      • Tuju Besi says:

        There are 2 types of mahraam:

        1. permanent mahraam (mahraam mu-ab-bad)

        2. temporary mahraam (mahraam mu-a’q-qad)

        Just to clear a misconception:

        As we all know for a woman: Your sister’s husband is not your permanent mahraam ..

        He is your ‘temporary” mahraam as someone wrote above.

        But what i want to clear is : “temporary mahraam” is actually just like any outsider .. you hv to cover up and you cannot be alone with him .. cannot sit next to him, cannot talk to him with a desirous voice.

        Just like for a man: another outsider who is a married woman is his mahraam! … “huh, what did you say?” … yup what I mean is TEMPORARY MAHRAAM ..

        because he cannot marry that woman as long as she stays married to another man.. its haraam for him..

        The daleel is:
        When mentioning our list of mahraam, Allah says like what one reader has quoted above from Surah An-Nisa’ verse 23… then Allah continued with verse 24, which means to say:

        [004:024] Also (forbidden are) women already married, except those (slaves) whom your right hands possess.

        BUT We canT say that this married woman can uncover or be alone with another man, NO!

        What I trying to say is “temporary mahraam” is just like any outsider .. They do not have any “privilege” or special rights compared to the outsider ,,

        In fact, when the word mahraam is mentioned alone in any article or in any conversation, we normally refer to the PERMANENT mahraam , unless otherwise added as “temporary mahraam” ..

        So in this article (which i hv been following for a few years), when they say “who are my mahraams?”, what the author meant is “Who are my “permanent mahraam?” .. They might not hv to explicitly write it out, MAYBE because it is understood …

        Just like the word “carrot” .. if someone said “I ate some carrots for breakfast” .. without questioning him any further, we normally would assume that what he ate was the normal orange carrot, unless otherwise mentioned as “white carrot” ..

        Does anybody understand me yet?

        So my point is do not be lenient and say “he is my temporary mahraam, its OK for me to sit with him” .. no no thats wrong ..

        AstaghfirULLAH .. says who? beware beware of this misconception!

        I want to repeat: THERE IS NO PRIVILEGE that a “temporary mahraam” has over an outsider … They are the same as outsiders .. except that you canT marry them temporarily ..

        All other parameters have to be guarded.. your awrah has to be covered, you cannot be alone with him, you cannot travel alone with him and etc

        And Allaah knows best. May Allaah send blessings and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and companions.

      • ummibraheem says:

        Jazakallah khayr for the clarification!

      • said_irfan@yahoo.com says:

        Could you please explain I was looking for answers

  11. zanjabil says:

    Is your daughter’s step-son your mahram? I’m asking because I want to find out if my mother has to cover infront of my grown stepson(who I don’t cover in front of)

    • ummibraheem says:

      Sorry, sweetie, I don’t know 😦 I hope you can find someone knowledgeable nearby to answer your question. Or just ask your local Imam, sister 🙂

  12. havaa says:

    what about my mothers uncle as in my grandmothers brother

  13. nazrina says:

    iam a female .i want2 know whether my sister’s son is a mahram or my dads brothers or dads siters sons are mahrams

  14. ummibraheem says:

    I want to once again point out that I am not someone knowledgable, just learning 🙂

    Your sister’s sons are your mahrams (they fall under category #3)

    Your dad’s brothers are your mahrams (they fall under category #4).

    In general, your dad’s sister’s sons are NOT your mahrams, because they are your cousins. Cousins are NOT mahrams. As I mentioned earlier, you can marry your cousin, so of course he is not your mahram 🙂

    Allah knows best.

  15. Amaana says:

    Assalamu alaikum, JazzakAllah khayr for this information

    I must be blind..
    But I would really appreciate it if you could just tell me YES or NO to this question.
    Are my husbands uncles my mahrem???

    InshaAllah Khair.

  16. Sister Nafees Nisar says:

    Very very good post Masha Allah. I’m glad you used terms from the Asian Sub-continent; Khalu, Phupa. I hope I’m right in adding to these as Mami or Mumani and Chachi are also not mahram as these are your husband’s nephews and nieces.

    Am I right in saying if they work out not to be mahram to your kids then they are not your mahram?

  17. Zahid Hossian says:

    can I marry my mom’s cousin?

  18. ummibraheem says:

    I feel really horrible that people keep asking me questions about mahrams. I apologize for this, but I’m going to stop answering even what I know, because I don’t know much. Please direct your questions at someone knowledgable 🙂 jazakAllah khayr! 🙂

  19. Zahid Hossian says:

    plz give my answer this very important to know “can I marry my mom’s cousin?”

  20. Sister Nafees Nisar says:

    @Zahid Hossian – Sayyedena Ali (R.A) was the son of the paternal uncle (father’s brother) of Rasul Allah (Sallallaho Alayhi Wassalam) and he was married to Saydatina Fatima (R.A) daughter of Rasul Allah (Sallallaho Alayhi Wassalam). So Sayyedena Ali (R.A) and Rasul Allah (Sallallaho alayhi wassalam) were both cousins.

    I am married to my mum’s maternal uncle’s (mamu)son. So in answer to your questions I am married to my mum’s cousin.

    • Zahid Hossian says:

      no not my mum’s mamu,uncle’s(chacha) daughter.is it possible please say it direct…….

      • ummibraheem says:

        i’m sorry, I didn’t understand that question at all. Also, I probably don’t know the answer. So please ask your local Imam 🙂

      • LOOk @zahid hossian u can marry ur mom’s cousin! There are many examples on of example was written by @sister nafees nisar that hazrat fatima (R.A) married his father cousin ! so u can also . . . i hope u got me ^_^

  21. Assalamu alaikum, very nice post ummibraheem, and very informative too. I know you can get overwhelmed with the questions the brothers and sisters keep asking, but you will be doing a great service to the Ummah if you can help them by replying when you are clear about the questions.

    Br. Hadi and Br. Mohamed Ahsan……..

    Your brother and sister’s children (Niece/Nephew) are Mahram to you but your spouses Neice and Nephew are not your Mahrams, THIS IS A FACT.

    Wassalamu Alaikum.

  22. ash says:

    Hi Sis can I ask you something? Can i marry my father’s brothers’ son? My dad and my uncle share the same father but not mother. He is my cousin. So can I marry him? Any advice?

  23. ummibraheem says:

    @sister asha: you are allowed to marry your cousin. I hope everything works out for the best for you ❤

    @UmmHuzaifah: jazakAllah khayr for your kindness. I will try to follow your advice 🙂

  24. Umm Hurayrah says:

    Assalaaamu alykum,

    I fould this a very interesting read, mashaAllah. I’m not sure whether you will be answering anymore questions, incase you are I thought I would ask my question inshaAllah.

    Is my Grandfather’s brother my mahram?

    • Abuz Zubair says:

      بسم الله …

      The siblings of our fathers are all mahram.

      Who are our fathers?

      In the chapter of Mahraam, Our fathers are all whose seed was responsible for our birth.

      That means
      1. our immediate biological father,
      2. our father’s father,
      3. our mother’s father, and so on. The line goes up and up. Up until they meet at Adam. And Adam is our father.

      So for a female, all those are her “father”. And all those are her mahram.

      And going back to the question, all the siblings of our fathers are mahraam …

      So for a female, the siblings of her grandfathers are all mahraam to her. And so all the rulings of mahraam applies.

      Hope you understand

  25. Muhammad says:

    Asalam u Aalaikium Warahmatullahe wabarakatuh,

    I have a question I am searching for for quite sometime.

    The Ayah you quoted above does not say that your maternal or paternal uncles are your Mehrams. But you have concluded the point # 4 that they are.

    I need some help. My wife’s ‘chachu’ (step brother of her father) is very young. He is about 10 years older than her. And he looks very young too. I don’t like it when he hugs her or shakes hand with her. But she tells me that he is her mehram so its ok. I don’t like it. He doesn’t seem to be a very ‘religious’ guy and I have all the reasons to doubt his stupid intentions. I feel very bad if he gets close to my wife. But the fact of the matter is that he is her paternal father.

    I am confused. Please help me. Am I not suppose to feel jealous because of this?

    Do you think you could email me please when you post a response?


  26. sharifa says:

    can someone help me answer this question please.
    is my cousin’s son my mahram?
    i think i might have a crush on him but i don’t want to be doing anything haram!

    thats my mums brothers son’s son…thanks you!

  27. ummibraheem says:

    @Muhammad, you said that the ayah does not include paternal or maternal uncles. The ayah does not explicitly say “your father’s brother” or “your mother’s brother”, but it can be understood from the verse. I won’t try to explain it, because I don’t want to make a mistake, but inshaAllah it is enough that the notes I made were from a class I took by Shaykh Yaser Birjas and I am absolutely positive that the Imam knew what he was talking about 🙂 If I can research the explanation for you later, I will try inshaAllah.

    As for your wife’s chachu – you said that he is your wife’s father’s step brother. Can you elaborate on that relationship, please? It’s possible that he is your wife’s mahram, but it is also possible that he is not. It depends on how the two brothers are related. And Allah knows best. Like I said, I don’t like responding to specific answers, so I implore you to please ask your local Imam. They would know best. As for the situation of you disliking her hugging him because of his age, I would also mention this to Imam and ask what can be done. Shaytaan is always trying to seperate the husband and wife, and I really pray that it works out for both of you inshaAllah and you get past this difficulty. May Allah increase the love between both of you and preserve your marriage.

  28. ummibraheem says:

    The issue of maternal and paternal uncles is mentioned in one of the links above (from islamqa.com). It says:

    paternal uncles and maternal uncles. They are mahrams by blood even though they are not mentioned in the aayah, because they are like parents and are regarded by people as having the same status as parents, and a paternal uncle may be called a father. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

    “Or were you witnesses when death approached Ya‘qoob (Jacob)? When he said unto his sons, “What will you worship after me?” They said, “We shall worship your Ilaah (God — Allaah) the Ilaah (God) of your fathers, Ibraaheem (Abraham), Ismaa’eel (Ishmael), Ishaaq (Isaac)…” [al-Baqarah 2:133]. Ismaa’eel was the paternal uncle of the sons of Ya’qoob.

    (Tafseer al-Raazi, 23/206; Tafseer al-Qurtubi, 12/232, 233; Tafseer al-Aaloosi, 18/143; Fath al-Bayaan fi Maqaasid al-Qur’aan by Siddeeq Hasan Khaan, 6/352)

  29. ummibraheem says:

    @sister Sharifa wAllahu ‘Alam, but I do not think your cousin’s children would be your mahram. Your cousin is definitely not your mahram, and I do not think their children would be either.

    And once again everyone, not just sister sharifa, PLEASE ask your local imam! I am just a stay at home mom trying to learn about Islam and do not want to get sins for answering someone incorrectly.

  30. ummibraheem says:

    Umm Hurayrah – that is a very good question. I have actually wondered that too…is my grandfather’s brother my mahram? please let me know should you find out 🙂

  31. sharifa says:

    Brothers and sisters who are reading this could you please give me some advise!
    Now that i know it is halal to marry you cousin’s son i have made a decision of doing so, but im am bengali so i was ment to call him my nephew.

    i have a feeling that my parents wont agree, can you please give me advice on what to do?
    my parent still think it is haram 😦

  32. ummibraheem says:

    please ask someone knowledgable who knows you for advice. I don’t think the internet is the best place to get advice. Everyone is sitting in their homes, making assumptions on your situation or going on very little knowledge about the deen and your situation. I am sure there is an elder in your family or a religious and wise friend who can give you good advice inshaAllah 🙂

  33. Fatou says:

    Salaam Aleikum, Jazakallah Khair, and may Allah be pleased with you for posting this blog and for being patient with the questions, and for referring people elsewhere when you do not know. If at all possible, could you help me to consult with someone about a difficult question. I feel a bit embarrassed to ask someone in person.

    Alhammdulilah, I know that it is halal for a woman to marry her husband’s brother in the case of his death. I also know that the prophet (sws) said, “The brother-in-law is death”. It may be inferred from that, perhaps, that in the case of divorce, you may not marry your former husband’s brother, but it is not completely clear because after idaat, your husband is longer mahrman.

    In the specific case I have in mind, a man was unjust with his wife. The family loved her and her faith so much that they were devastated by the prospect of losing her, so they asked the brother to allow them to propose a marriage between the woman her hurt (and divorced) and one of his brothers, so that she would remain united with the family. He accepted. Is it halal to accept such a proposal? Is it perhaps, not recommended? This is a question, truly, for an expert, I suppose. I would be extremely grateful if, for the sake of my deen, and the deen of the entire family, you could help me to connect with a scholar to pose this question.

    The intention is to preserve a family relationship. But we want to do only things that please and honor Allah (swt). If you can help me to connect to someone to find the answer, I will be very grateful. I am a convert, and I do not have many deep connections. My faith is precious to me though. And may Allah be please with you!

    Allah hafiz.

    • ummibraheem says:

      That is a question for a scholar 🙂 Here is a trusted source of scholars online inshaAllah — amjaonlie.com.

      I searched “mahram” in their fatwa bank. Here it is: http://www.amjaonline.com/en_f_search.php

      May Allah maake things easy on you and your family and guide you to what is right.

      I hope you find your answer, sweetie 🙂

  34. sunny says:

    asalam alaikum ! Plz plz plz help me . I want to marry with my dad,s sister. She z younger then me. And age gape z 1 year between us.she z step sis of my dad. Nw plz tell me that is it possible 4 me 2 marry her ? Plz solve my prob. As soon as possible.

  35. Umm Abdur Rahman says:

    As’salamu aaleykom,
    ma sha Allah,May Allah reward u all

  36. bint.junaid says:

    Assalamu alaikum,
    i know that my fathers sisters sons are not my mahram, but i would like to know are my fathers brothers sons my mahram or not?
    Alhamdulillah ,i do hijaab from both of the groups but i am not sure about the latter cousins. Just wanted to confirm.

  37. ummibraheem says:

    wa ‘alaykum as salaam wa rahmatullah sister and Eid Mubarak! 🙂 nope, those cousins are not your mahrams either. All cousins are non-mahrams. wAllahu ‘Alam 🙂

  38. Umair says:

    OK I have a question, my parents are cousins 1st cousins so that still means their cousins are not my Uncles & Aunts? I have always believed they never were only my parents real siblings are my uncles/Aunts

    If they are not my uncles/aunts then what are they & what will their childrens relation be to me? Is the Islamic family graph like the English one [2nd cousin once removed etc].

  39. ummibraheem says:

    I didn’t understand the question, Br. Umair. And I would prefer not to answer even if I did understand.

    Please don’t be offended anyone, but I’m going to stop approving very specific questions. Sorry 😦 We have imams for a reason 🙂

  40. Umair says:

    Sure no problem, perhaps my question wasn’t clear enough 🙂 …All I wanted to know is the relation between a mother/father’s cousin to me. Of course they’re not my real Uncles & Aunts as you’ve said. So I just wanted to know the relation would it make them my second or third cousins or is safe to say that there is no relationship as such.

  41. ummibraheem says:

    I actually don’t know what the relationship is. sorry 😦

  42. ummibraheem says:

    Sorry, everyone. I’m still sticking by not answering specific questions. JazakAllah khayr for understanding and taking your questions to someone knowledgable 🙂

  43. masud ibrahim says:

    i am very glad with this web site as it covers many of islamic teaching,may Allah reward you abundantly,i also pray for muslims to be doing all righteous deed,and leave all evils.lastly may Allah elevate islam and depress religion beside islam.

  44. nazira says:

    asslamu alaikum
    masha allah..its great to see this site..i have doubt too…is it allowed in islam for me to marry ……….please guide me…jazakAllah khayr

    • ummibraheem says:

      jazakAllah khayr. Please see the message at the very beginning of the post 🙂 JazakAllah khayr for understanding.

      • nazira says:

        i would like to know if i can marry…………i dint get this answer from your post…kindly explain..jazakallah khair

  45. ummibraheem says:

    Sr. Nazira, I intentionally did not reply to your question because of the disclaimer at the beginning of the post; this is not a fatwa blog, nor is it run by anyone knowledgable. If you need an answer to your question, please go to an Imam or someone knowledgable inshaAllah. I hope you find someone to answer your question.

    • nazira says:

      asslamu alaikum
      yes i can understand sister…its not a fatwa blog..i just want to clarify the doubt…alhamdhillah i am researching over it and trying to get a fatwa on this issue…..i am just trying to get this doubt cleared from as many ppl as possible…and ofcourse i understand your intention…thank you sister..jazakallah khayr…

  46. ummibraheem says:

    Nazira — jazakAllah khayr for understanding 🙂 I am a firm believer in people not speaking without knowledge, and since I don’t know enough… 🙂

  47. mursal says:

    very useful mashallah jzk sis for ur detailed info.

  48. Ummu Anwar says:

    Asalamu Alaikum,
    So can ****** be your mahramm?

  49. Sahl says:

    Thanks ya ukhtii..

    This is very useful and informative..

    BaarakALLAHU Feek

  50. amrin fathima says:

    Hello. I have a query.. since you mentioned my father in law a marham,didnt Mohamed marry his daughter in law, Zainab? And wasn’t revelation made to adjust desires of Mohamed that a man can marry his daughter in law?Oryou wanna say that its permitted because zaid was adopted?

    • ummibraheem says:

      jazakAllah khayr for bringing this up. The Prophet (S) did not marry his daughter in law. “Adoption” is very different in Islam. I don’t have time to get into a discussion on this, but you should be able to read up on it on a reputable Muslim site 🙂 In short, he was not the Prophet’s real son (they were not related by blood or breastfeeding), and therefore it wasn’t as if he were marrying his son’s ex-wife. As a matter of fact, one of the wisdoms behind him marrying Zaynab was to explain that how the relationship with an adopted child is different (in terms of mahramship). wAllahu ‘Alam

  51. mooni says:

    if my father in law is my Mahram, will this allow me to hug him or kiss him on the forehead??? wana know coz im longing to do so, i love him like my own father,,

  52. ummibraheem says:

    Most of the questions people ask are already indirectly answered in the explanation of mahrams. Please just reread the article. If you’re still confused, read it with someone else 🙂

  53. Tasleema says:

    Salaams, i am 16 years old and was hoping to go with my dads side of the family to saudi for ramadhan 2013 but need to clarify if my dads sisters husband can be allowed as my mahram?

  54. Niño says:

    As-Salaamu a’laikum
    Hope you’re well?
    I’ve been wanting to I ow for a long time wether your sisters husband is mehram or not? As they say, he cannot marry you whilst you’re married to him, however he can marry you when you pass away.
    Could you please elaborate on that.
    JazakAllah khairan

    • ummibraheem says:

      No man can be married to two sisters at the same time. That is haraam. But if a man’s wife passes away, it is perfectly fine for him to marry her sister.

      Your sister’s husband is NOT your mahram. You have to observe hijab in front of him. He is a “temporary mahram” ONLY in the sense that you cannot marry him. It’s a kind of weird relationship in terms of mahram-ship 🙂

      I hope that clears up any confusion 🙂

  55. Parvez says:

    JazakAllah sister. This article is very helpful and easy to understand, keep writing.

  56. abdul says:

    sis can u tell me plz where does it say in the quran majeed that women can only perform hajj with mahram?

  57. Um Kayed says:

    My mother remarried ,,, Is her new father in law a mahram for me? Or only her ?

    • ummibraheem says:

      I don’t know, sweetie 🙂 I’m sorry. I hope you get your answer from someone knowledgable!

    • Abuz Zubair says:

      بسم الله ..

      For a female, the husband to your mother is a mahram, with the condition that intercourse has already happened between them (between the mother and the man) It is stated clearly in the Quran.

      And the mahram (ity) stops there. The mahram line does not go up or sideways .. i.e. the man’s father and his brothers are STILL non-mahram to you. This is because the man is not your biological father. He is your mother’s husband, not your father. There is a difference between the 2.

      As for our own biological father, the mahram (ity) goes up … and sideways. Ie our father’s father and his siblings are all mahram to a female Muslim.

      To Allah we ask guidance.

  58. umm sumayyah says:

    Don’t know why noones mentioned this ayah but it might help clear a few things up for those asking in case of marriage…

    Allah Says (interpretation of meaning): {Forbidden to you (for marriage) are: your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your father’s sisters, your mother’s sisters, your brother’s daughters, your sister’s daughters, your foster mother who gave you suck, your foster milk suckling sisters, your wives’ mothers, your step daughters under your guardianship, born of your wives to whom you have gone in – but there is no sin on you if you have not gone in them (to marry their daughters), – the wives of your sons who (spring) from your own loins, and two sisters in wedlock at the same time, except for what has already passed; verily, Allâh is OftForgiving, Most Merciful.} [4: 23]

    so if the person u want to marry or are asking about is not in this list…talk to your parents and sort it out…stop hassling the sister.

  59. Muslima says:

    please please somebody answer me what if you adopt is that child your mehram now or not??

    • abdul mateen says:

      Assalamualikum.sorry I cant speak english very well.according to islam our adopted child is our na mehram.but if u or ur sister gave own milk to her or him.he or she will b ur mehram.bcoz if u gave ur milk he or she become ur son or daughter.and if ur sister gave milk he or she become ur niece or nephew.and nephew or mehram

    • ummibraheem says:

      As salaamu ‘alaykum sister,

      What exactly do you mean by adopt? Taking care of an orphan is very much praised in Islam. However, just taking care of an orphan doesn’t create the legal rulings of mahaarim and other related issues.

      Unfortunately, I have not done enough research on this topic to answer your question. But having always wanted to adopt children myself, I do know that breastfeeding establishes the relationship of mahram as well. You will have to read up on the details of this on your own, I’m afraid 🙂

      May Allah make it easy on you,
      Umm Ibraheem

    • Muslim Faith says:

      No sister, adopted child (male/female) does not become your mahram or your husband’s mahram and he/she is not entitled for your inheritance like your own son or daughter just by saying ‘I adopt him/her’. We find this example in the life of the Messenger (may peace and blessings be upon him) when he adopted a boy named Zayd (may Allaah be pleased with him), he was not called as Zayd bin Muhammad, rather he was called Zayd bin Thaabit. He was 6 years old his father died in the Battle and later on became a scribe of the Qur’aan.

      To make it more clear to the people, Prophet Muhammad (may peace and blessings be upon him) told Zayd (may Allaah be pleased with him) to divorce his wife in order he (Prophet) can marry his wife so that people will understand that adopting child does not mean he/she becomes your real son/daughter or mahram. If he was his real son just by adopting him, his wife was haraam for the Prophet (may peace and blessings be upon him) as he (Prophet) then was her father-in-law and her permanent mahram, but that is not the case. This proves that just by adopting a child, he/she does not become your mahram. And mahram does not mean just you cannot marry (that is one of the quality of a mahram) because then you cannot marry your sister-in-law while your wife is alive and in your marriage, but mahram is a more wider term than that.

  60. fatima says:

    Masha’Allah you have listed it all correctly and pointed out the common misconceptions 🙂

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  62. asadullah says:

    Asalamo alikum wa rahmatallah .
    I have a qustion hope you answer me plese . My cousn is 1 year older then me
    Now I want to marry whit her but the problom is this that my mother give to her milk ( hop you undrestand ) but at that time I was not born and also my father don’t know about now I want to now that I can marry whit her or no ? Plese answer . Thanks a lot

    • ummibraheem says:

      Please ask an imam. If she is your sister through breastfeeding, she is your mahram and you cannot marry her. Please ask someone you know who is knowledgeable.

  63. riyaz says:

    tell me my wife is she is maharam to her……

    say my father has a step brother; same father but different mother.
    would this brother i.e my step uncle then be considered a mahram to me?

    • ummibraheem says:

      If two people share one parent, that doesn’t make them step siblings. It makes them HALF siblings. They are related by blood. Allah knows best.

    • Abuz Zubair says:

      بسم الله …

      He is your father’s sibling, because he and your father came from the same father. It does not matter if they have different mothers. As long as they have a common parent (either mother or father) then they are siblings.

      Therefore, he is mahraam to you.

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  66. Bisma Khan says:

    So I have an important question regarding the ‘cousin’ aspect of Islam. I know that, in the basic sense, all my cousins are non-mahrams to me. However, the cousin aspect in my family might be a little different than it normally is. So my mum got married to my dad whose brother got married to my mums sister. Thus my cousin, in essential terms, carries the same blood as me. We have the same ancestors from both sides and we are basically one family to come to think of it. In that case, if I am to marry him would that be equivalent to getting married to a mahram? I basically grew up with him and address him as my brother. Wouldn’t it be wrong to be thinking of marrying him?

    • ummibraheem says:

      Even if you are cousins through two parents, you are still cousins. And Allah knows best, you can still get married. If you are raised with someone “as brother and sister”, that doesn’t establish the tie off being mahram. For example, ‘Ali was in the Prophet’s house in his childhood but still married Faatimah 🙂 Allah knows best. I hope that helps.

  67. saniya says:

    Asslamo alaikum

    Dear sister please help me out and reply as soon as possible since m in great distress m married to my cousin brothers son my husbands late father was my father’s sister son (my phuppi zad bhai) is my merriege valid to him I love my husband very much please answer soon.

  68. Aisha says:

    How about my half brother’s brother? Because we both share a half brother so that makes us cross siblings.

    • Abuz Zubair says:

      Dear Aisha,

      In the chapter of Mahraam, a sibling is defined as someone who EITHER:
      a. came from the same mother as us OR
      b. came from the same father as us.

      To put in bluntly, a sibling is someone who either came from the same source of womb, or came from the same source of seed, as us.

      So if that person does not satisfy either one of these 2 definition, he is not your mahraam brother.

      Therefore, you have to cover in front of him … and you can marry him.

  69. virus says:

    I am in love with my cousin If i am calling my cousin by bahini(sister) then i can marry with her she is 6 month older than me and every time when i want to call her i used bahini is there any problem in it so i want to know that she is my cousin so i can continue to call her bahini before marrige because we are from one family but i will marry her after 1 year so can i continue to calling her by it or not

    • ummibraheem says:

      sorry…please read my disclaimer at the top of the post. barakAllah feeki may Allah help you figure out your situation.

  70. anonymous says:

    assalamu alaikum.. 🙂
    so we should not uncover in front of our cousins ?? 😮

  71. Farah Zubair says:

    Thanks a lot for the detailed information. I have a question about mahram as well, pls can someone give me a valid answer for this. I have one son & three daughters. My son is 17 years old nearly 18 but he has epilepsy & moderate learning difficulties. I wanted to know that is he a mahram for me & my daughters. I would be very grateful for this answer.
    JazzakAllah Khair

  72. shilmiya says:

    can i marry my dad sisters son? is that okay for our {next generation} kids?

    • shilmiya says:

      assalamu alikum warahmathullahi wabarakathu. can i marry my dad sisters son? is that okay for our {next generation} kids?please tl me the answer urgent

      • Abuz Zubair says:

        بسم الله …

        Dear Shilmiya,

        Your dad’s sister’s son is your cousin.
        If that is indeed what you mean, then you can marry him. Because cousins are not mahraam to each other.

  73. sadia usman says:

    Thank you very much the literature was really clear and enough explanatory that my query got cleared on this very first search JazakAllah keep writing I really like ur way of writing.

  74. Anonymous says:

    assalamu alaikum,
    You said above that your cousins son (nephew) is your na maharam… but what if they are 15 years younger then you, does that still makes them na maharam for me…….

    • ummibraheem says:

      wa ‘alaykum as salaam wa rahmatullah, Age does not determine whether or not someone is your mahram. RasulAllah (S) married Khadeejah, and he was 15 years younger than her! I hope that helps 🙂

  75. nasir says:

    I have question its improtans to ask ans about that
    There is a sitution can we marry with step sis or step bro in islam if they father and mother are diffrent plz
    Rply soon as possibel

    • Abuz Zubair says:

      بسم الله …

      If they do not have a common mother, and do not have a common father 👉 then they are NOT siblings. They are not mahraam to each other. So their awrah between each other is like the awrah to an outsider.

      And they can marry each other.

      If they have a common mother OR a common father (either one), then they are Siblings and are mahraam to each other, and forbidden to be married to each other

  76. Jasmin Miah says:

    Is my mothers new husband my stepdad mahram? They married when i was 17years old.
    I cover infront of him cz i feel like he is not mahram. i dont live with him

  77. Hajer says:

    I don’t understand first u said ur cousins are your mahrams but then u said they are not

    • ummibraheem says:

      No, I never said that cousins are your mahrams. Cousins are NOT your mahrams.

      Maybe you are confused because you read it under “misconceptions.”

  78. therealshard says:

    Maa shaa Allaah brilliant post and effort and I respect your humility and honesty.

    I don’t know if it’s possible but you should consider closing comments for your post, many people don’t seem to get the point that you’re not taking specific questions anymore hahaha.

    May Allaah bless the author, her family, and all the readers of this blog and all our Muslim brothers and sisters everywhere, and send peace and blessings upon our Master Muhammad.

    Take care everybody 🙂

  79. Aliya says:

    My husband always complain about mahram when I’m going out somewhere with my mother n 1 n 1/2 year old son. Isn’t my son a mahram for me. I really don’t understand the concept of mahram

  80. Afshan says:

    I have a step daughter( daughter of my husband by a previous marriage) who is now married. Is her husband my maherem?

    • Abuz Zubair says:

      No, sis Afshan.

      Her husband is not your mahram.


      For a female, “sons-in-laws” are only mahram if they are (or were) married to your own biological daughters.

      If your husband has a daughter, who is not your daughter, and this girl then gets married, her husband is not your mahram. That is because you are not his wife’s mother.

      So all rulings of non-mahram shall apply. You must cover in front of him, cannot be alone with him, etc etc.

      I hope you understand.

  81. Anisa nighat says:


    I have a quick question. Is my Chachas son allowed to stay at my house he is 18 years of age. And he calls me big sister. Am 35 married with 2 children?

  82. Rameen Ahmed says:

    Thank you so much this post helped me alot! I’m a hijabi and I was a bit confused that whether I should remove my hijab in front of my uncles and cousins or not. It’s all clear now. Stay blessed! Thanks again😙

  83. Thanks for the article. This will help many to understand Allah’s laws.

  84. Alia says:

    For clarification, my husband’s nephew would not be considered mahram to me? Nor my niece’s to him?

    • ummibraheem says:

      That is my understanding.

    • Abuz Zubair says:

      You are correct Alia …

      Yes, your husband’s nephew is not a mahraam to you. Not at all.
      You must cover in front of him.

      As for the other way round, that is your niece 👉 is she a mahram to your husband? 👉🏻 then there is a detailed explanation.

      The short answer is: No she is not mahram (Muabbad). She is like a non-mahraam to him. So she must cover in front of him.

      But …

      She (your niece) is a mahram muaqqad (ie TEMPORARY mahram) to him

      What is a temporary mahram?

      First we need to revise what is a mahram. A mahram is someone whom we are forbidden to marry. For a male, they are his mothers, his sisters and so on, etc etc. A woman is allowed to uncover her head dress in front of her mahrams.

      That follows, “a non-mahram” is a person whom we can marry. A woman must cover in front of her Non-mahrams, except her husband.

      A “temporary” mahram is someone whom we are forbidden to marry, but for a temporary period.

      But a temp mahraam is like any other outsider, ie the girl must be fully covered, no touching, cannot safar (travel on a long journey) together, etc etc …

      The only difference is 👉 a temporary mahram means your husband cannot marry your niece temporarily. That is he cannot make your niece as his 2nd wife, as long as he is married to you.

      This is because in Islam, a man cannot combine a girl with her aunt as co-wives. Similarly, he cannot combine 2 sisters as co-wives in a polygyny marriage.

      Other than that, the niece is like any other non-mahraam to your husband. All rulings of non-Mahram applies, except that he cannot marry her temporarily.

      I tried to summarise it as short as possible. I hope you understand

  85. 101911zxynextikme says:

    If my father remarried and I have two mothers, one who gave me birth and one who is taking care of me, is my step mother’s sisters a mahram? I am the son who is 15. Let me know.

    • Abuz Zubair says:

      No akhee …

      The wife of your father is mahram to you… But not her sister, nor her sisters.

      For more detailed answer, see my answer to Omar’s question below

      • ummibraheem says:

        For anyone reading this – he means, a wife of our father who is not your biological mother. Although I would ask anyone if they are related to the dad’s wife in any other way.

      • Abuz Zubair says:

        I meant “But not her sisters, Nor her mother” …

        Typo error. Anyway, for more info, see my reply to Omar’s question below. I didnT want to retype or paste it here. Essentially, both are the same question

  86. 101911zxynextikme says:

    please reply as soon as possoble here on this article

  87. 101911zxynextikme says:

    alright jazakallah khair

  88. 101911zxynextikme says:

    I am very busy and I dont have a local imam to ask can you verify and ask an imam?
    that would be very helpful.
    May Allah help you.

  89. Omar says:

    Is my aunt from my step-mother’s side a mahrum, can she uncover her hair in front of me?

    • Abuz Zubair says:

      Dear Omar,

      All the wives of our biological father is a mahram to us. (It is only in English that we call them “step mothers”).

      Ie we cannot marry them forever.

      But the relationship of the mahram stops there. It does not go up or expand vertically nor horizontally, ie her siblings, even her mother, are not our mahram.

      This is because she is the wife of our father, not our biological mother.

      As for our mother, like we all already know, is mahram to us. But not only that, the mahram relationship goes up vertically (ie our grandmother and above) and horizontally (ie our mother’s siblings, meaning our aunts) …

      The point is there is a difference between (a) our own mother (b) our father’s other wives.

      Hope this help.

      Many thanks to Umm Ibraheem if she allows this answer to be posted.

  90. Ms says:

    Jazak Allah. I have a confusion. I have heard that when your phuphi is alive there is no possibility to relate or marry with phupha so he is your mehram until when phuphi is alive.. And most of times i have heard that phupha is non mehram. Can you define plz?

  91. nadeem khan says:


    Please tell me i wants to know that a woman can go for Haj with sister-in-law and her sister in law go with her husband, and a woman is a widow.

    Please suggest me.

    • Abuz Zubair says:

      If what you mean is
      👉 the woman is a widow
      👉🏾 and she wants to go Hajj with her sister-in-law, who in turn is going with her husband.
      That’s how I understand the question.

      If that is what you mean, then the answer is:
      1. Lets name the widow as W.
      2. If the sister-in-law’s husband is indeed W’s brother, then … yes, W can go Hajj with them 👉🏻 as her brother will be a mahram for her in the journey.

      But if the sister-in-law’s husband is not W’s brother, then W cannot go.

      A woman cannot go on a safar (long journey) without her mahram or her husband.

      Thanks Nadeem

  92. Dena says:

    Hello, i am having troubles with islam. I find it hard to pray or to believe in many aspects of it. I don’t feel any connection to ‘God’, and if I’m being honest, I have never did. It’s not just Islam, I don’t believe in any religion at all. Noone knows of this, and if my parents found out, they would say that I was ‘cursed’, and would most likely take me to the imam/send me overseas.
    im pansexual, meaning i’d be interested in any gender. im aware that its totally against islam.
    I feel conflicted.
    I’d like some advice.

    • ummibraheem says:

      I’m so sorry to hear this. I did not see this until many months after. I hope you found someone to talk to about what you are going through. We all have problems with our eman now and then; we are all tested in different ways. May God ease things on you.

  93. Abuz Zubair says:

    سبحان الله …

    It has been more than 10 years since this post started and I still get updates about this post in my mailbox.

    That means after more than 10 years, there are still people reading from this post.

    If they benefitted from this post, then it might be a continous reward for Umm Ibraheem, بارك الله فيها ….

  94. Tom Jones says:

    Sura An-nisa is clear on the issue pertaining to becoming ‘mahram’ via marriage….

    …. The only sure methodology that God reveals to us relating to marriage. Which ensures 100% the safety of the family structure is ‘mahram via consumation’. Once you marry and consumate the marriage, those who are ‘mahram’ for you also become ‘mahram’ for one’s spouse. It is as simple as this….

    …… Surah An-Nisa was revealed specifically for this purpose. Does it make an ounce of sense that God Almighty will allow one relationship to completely decimate other relationships. For example: it is claimed that one can have sexual intercourse with his non-bioloigcal aunt i.e. she is married to one’s biological Uncle. This abominable act will always, and I have seen with my own eyes, completely annihilate family relations. It is a horrible, horrible thing…. Are we to believe that Allah intends to protect the family structure, yet at the same time will allow for that same structure to completely crumble by allowing the very same thing to occur which it was sent to protect? Certainly NOT. God does NOT contradict himself.

    The point is this. That if a possibility exists, a person will surely jump at the opportunity. God, in his Infinite Wisdom, closes all doors and prevents the possibility from even occurring. For instance, if a person is aware that he/she is mahram to another, the idea of future marital/sexual prospects is eliminated altogether….

    …. The ‘mahram’ rule, relating to marriage, is a vital preventative measure to ensure relationships are healthy, stable and that they maintain a solid family structure.

    There’s much more evidence to support, from Quran & hadeeth but this is the general purpose/idea of Surah An-Nisa.

    • ummibraheem says:

      I am unclear on what you were trying to say. When you’re married to your wife, you cannot marry her sister at the same time. Her sister still has to observe hijaab in front of you, but you cannot be married to two sisters at the same time. If that’s the point you’re trying to make, I agree with that.

    • ummibraheem says:

      I think what you’re pointing out is the permissibility of marrying these women (who are “mahrams” to each other) at the same time. Usually in talks, I’ve heard about these relationships (such as a man and his wife’s sister) called “temporary mahrams.” I really hate that terminology because it makes people think that they don’t have to observe hijab in front of their temporary mahrams. YOU HAVE TO WEAR HIJAB IN FRONT OF THESE MEN. You are not allowed to be alone with them; you should observe hijab in front of them; you should carry yourself the same way as you would around other non-mahrams. What you are talking about is, specifically, that they are not allowed to marry AT THE MOMENT.

  95. Rashida says:

    Very enlightening and informative. I love the thread of humour also… very important when tackling a subject of this magnitude. It’s amazing how people justify haram contact and interaction, when Islam is so clear on the subject.

  96. Hoorain says:

    My mother married her cousin when I was 5 years old ..so,my stepfather is mehram to me or not???plzz answer

    • ummibraheem says:

      Yes. Stepfathers are mahrams.

    • Abuz Zubair says:

      بسم الله

      It has been a few years since I last posted. And this thread is still beneficial to readers. May Allah reward Umm Ibrahemm for her effort.

      For a female, the husband to your mother is a mahram, with the condition that intercourse has already happened between them (between the mother and the man) It is stated clearly in the Quran.

      And the mahram (ity) stops there. The mahram line does not go up or sideways .. i.e. the man’s brothers are STILL non-mahram to you. This is because the man is not your biological father. He is your mother’s husband, not your father. There is a difference between the 2.

      If intercourse did not happen between the man and the mother, then the man is STILL a non-mahram to you. Ie you must still cover up in front of him, no touching, etc…

      Hopefully this answer helps

  97. Abuz Zubair says:

    Dear Umm Ibraheem,

    I noticed a few questions above from yester years, which are not yet answered.

    Can I ask your consent that I answer them?

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